Being an older sibling has its advantages.
Disadvantages, too.
Take Caleb and Lucy.
He’s two-and-a-half. She’s one-and-a-half.
In an early march toward the “terrible twos” Lucy has chosen to resolve sibling conflict utilizing her teeth. Her well exercised jaws (Lucy is an eager eater) and full set of teeth are formidable weapons.
As Caleb is her most frequent playmate, he is also the most frequent recipient of her biting. Lucy’s parents are doing a terrific job of discipline. Yet Lucy is of the strong-willed stripe. If she feels a bite comin’ on…woe be to you if your finger should get near her mouth.
But if Lucy’s mouth leaves a red mark, Caleb’s mouth is leaving an impression all his own. His weapons are words.
To any guest—friend or stranger—who enters their home, Caleb will gladly march up, point to his little sister Lucy and proclaim with gravitas: “Hers a biter.”
Like you, I laughed when I first heard about Caleb’s preemptive strike. In three unflattering words, he defines the universe of all you need to know about his little sister: “Hers a biter.”
Missing from his three word assessment is that Lucy also has a love of books, a tender heart, and a way of putting her head on your shoulder that makes you melt.
We laugh at Lucy and Caleb (hey, they’re our grandkids!)…but you and I do the same thing: paint a person, or entire culture, with one broad brush—and two or three unflattering words:
- “They’re snobby…”
- “They’re lazy…”
- “They’re untrustworthy…
In so doing, we shut down dialogue, tear down bridges, and violate Scripture. Ephesians 4:32: “Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.”
Let’s stop with the two-year-old behavior.
After all, grown-ups should know better.